Welcome to the first of three lessons in “Body Language Basics” crash course.
As I stated earlier, I will get to the body language of men later, I will first take you down the road of the basics of body language so you will be ready to digest the others when you come to them.
Each post you will receive a lesson that will help you better understand and interpret the signs and signals of body language.
As you have read in a past post, called,what body language is, here I will add to what was said and explain in more detailed what you need to learn from each one.
The main goal of this course is to help introduce you to the art of body language. While I will not be able to teach you everything that
there is to know about this fine art. I will do my best to give you some basic understanding and get you started on your journey.
In this first lesson we are going to talk a little about what body language is and how you can learn to quickly recognize the signs
and signals that people are sending you. Remember this when you come to the learning about your man’s language.
Body language can truly speak louder than words. Different body parts like; eyes, hands, arms and legs can be used in different
ways, with each one having several meanings. It is a very powerful method of communication that most of us use without even
realizing we are using it.
Understanding the art of body language and being able to identify the different body signals people are using is a great skill to have or to acquire ! Even without the use of words, you can effectively send your message to another person, and that person to you.
By learning how to understand body language you can quickly identify and determine their moods,emotions,feelings, and desires.
Before we continue, lets look at a video that tells us a little about this great art.
This will give you the ability to control almost any situation by knowing how to react to it in advance.
For instance, most of the time the use of…
Direct eye contact- indicates interest, positive thinking, and sincerity. However, it could also mean: mistrust, doubt, and suspicion.
Lateral eye movements may mean the person is lying, or inspecting his surroundings making sure no one or everyone is listening.
Often when some one is trying to recall or imagine something, they will look upward. On the other hand looking down
may indicate submission to an authority or guilt.
Did you know that your hand and arm gestures can also display different meanings? Besides the obvious ones that we see people
use everyday, like waving, pointing or others that we won’t discuss in this lesson.
Let’s go over a few, but before we see what is next, let us watch this video.
If someone talks with their palms facing upwards, they are showing sincerity.
If someone talks with their fist clenched it is a sign of anger or hostility.
If you encounter somebody who taps or drums their fingers on a surface, they are showing feelings of nervousness or anxiety.
Arms crossed across the chest is a display of defense and protection from an outside source, or may simply indicate that they
disagree with what is being said.
Now lets talk about a type of body language that we all like and that is the language of love!
We naturally use our bodies when we are looking for a little romance, and flirting is one of the best examples of body language that I can think of!
Body language can help you show someone that you like him or her, and likewise, you can determine if somebody is attracted to
you. The most basic and first sign of attraction is the smile. The wider the smile, the more he or she is into you.
Let’s say you are in opposite corners of a room and you see someone who interests you. You can use your eyes to send an
invitation with a lingering, soft look or by giving a quick look and suddenly looking away, and then back to eye contact again. This is a form of flirting and definite sign of interest that many of us use without even thinking.
Looking from the eyes down to the lips and back to the eyes again also indicates possible romance. Other gestures can also be
signs of attraction, like if the person is facing you directly or leaning towards you.
Of course body language can also let you know if that someone is not interested. A hard look or glare can say “back off” louder
than saying the actual words. Other signs of disinterest are looking away, keeping the mouth shut tight, turning the body away, staring at people other than you, crossing the arms, and moving away are just some of the clues that he or she is not interested in having a romantic encounter with you.
Body language isn’t all about love it can also help you detect lies! You don’t need to launch a full scale investigation to determine if
somebody is being dishonest with you. All you need is some basic understanding in the art of body language to spot a liar. The
simplest way to detect lies is to simply look for signs of discomfort, anxiety, and nervousness. The inability to look directly into your eyes, fidgeting fingers, shuffling feet, sudden crossing of the arms or legs, glancing around the room, and forced smiles are the most common clues that someone is lying to you.
Often the volume of a persons voice will become softer than usual when lying, but during a defensive state of mind, they will usually
raise their voice. You may also notice speech errors, such as mispronunciation, stuttering, stammering or that they talk faster
than normal. Now, I don’t want to you get paranoid that everyone is lying to you just because they don’t look at you or because they happen to cross their arms when you are talking to them. I also don’t want you to assume that everyone who looks at you across a room is ready for romance!
The meanings and interpretations of body language are not always true and definitive. Body language involves many gestures
and movements that all have to be considered when you are attempting to determine someone’s inner feelings and emotions
and we will be talking more about that in the next lesson of body language course