I will mention here the different types of languages that people express themselves with their body…I will only mention 15 of them and will explain each one as we go on this great journey of learning about them, so with that said, here they are in alphabetical order.

1. Agressive

2. Attentive

3. Closed

4. Deceptive

5. Defensive

6. Dominant

7. Emotional

8. Evaluating

9. Greeting

10. Open

11. Relaxed

12. Power

13. Ready

14. Romantic

15. Submissive

These are the ones, you will be able to learn about each one of these and detect everyone of these languages when you spot them on someone you know, or anyone by that matter.

Remember that we speak more with our body than with our voice, at least most of us do, I know, you probably have an aunt that talks more than a wet parrot and  if you close her mouth, words come out of her elbows… any way, lets learn about this great language.

It’s time for your second lesson. As promised in this lesson we are

going to talk more about the different types of gestures and body

movements that people use to communicate, so that you can you

can learn to interpret them better.

Consciously or unconsciously, as humans we all send and receive

messages through body language. It is virtually impossible for us

to not to use our bodies when we interact with each other.

There are several gestures that people use in different specific

situations. For instance; at work, during a job interview, a dinner

date, or even in a casual conversation. The eyes, arms, and hands

are the body parts most frequently used to communicate, even

unconsciously.

Eye contact is the strongest form of body language that we use.

As small as they are the eyes carry big meanings and indications

behind them. With your eyes you can let someone know that you

are interested, sincere, and attentive.

As we discussed in the first lesson the lack of eye contact and

inability to prolong it may mean that a person is lying, hiding

something, or that they are becoming bored or uninterested.

Did you know that our eyes naturally perform scans when we see

something new?

This is especially true when we meet a new person. We use our

eyes to check out the appearance of another by looking first, in the

eyes, then down and back up to the eyes again. This is a typical

response when people first meet. It allows us to gain our first

impression of someone new and we do it automatically.

Your eyes can easily express different feelings that you are having.

They can also help you determine what someone else is feeling

and what their current state of mind is. But you have to be careful

not to misinterpret what people are saying to you.

For instance, the act of winking can be a signal of agreement or

a sign of flirtation. While glancing often means a moment of

desire.

On the other hand if a persons eyes widen quickly, it is a signal of

shock, surprise, or disbelief.

When someone squints at what you are saying, it can mean that

they are analyzing what you have to say or that they are trying to

determine weather or not you are telling the truth.

These our just a few of the things that the eyes can tell us. Our

eyes can clearly express what we feel or desire at any time and

the ability to understand what people are telling you with their eyes

can help you in more ways than one.

Now let’s talk about what our arms have to do with our

communications skills.

Did you know that standing or sitting with arms crossed across the

chest is one of the most powerful and basic gestures used by

everyone?

People can literally form a barrier between themselves and

another person just by crossing their arms.

When you are talking to someone and they cross their arms, most

of the time it means that they oppose, suspect, or doubt what you

are saying.

But, if they are talking to you with their arms crossed, it could

mean that they are nervous, lying, or hiding something from you.

On the other hand it may simply mean that he or she feels cold!

This body language thing can be tricky!

That is why it’s important to consider all of the postures,

movements and gestures when you are trying to read someone

else’s body language.

Along with our arms, our hands also have a lot to say.

In lesson one we briefly talked about open palms and that if some

one talks to you with their palms facing up they are often

expressing sincerity and honesty. This can also mean that they are

comfortable with you and that they are interested in what you have

to say.

On the other hand (no pun intended) a clenched fist is a very

clear indication of frustration, anger, resistance, and defense.

But there are times where a clenched fist could indicate

that they have confidence in their idea or opinion.

I told you this stuff is tricky!

Did your mother ever tell you to get your hands out of your

pockets when you were little?

That’s because the pockets are never the right place to put your

hands. Especially when you are engaged in a conversation with

another person.

If you are speaking to a person with his hands in his pockets it

may indicate that he is nervous, uncomfortable, bored, or

uninterested. This gesture can also indicate  that he may be hiding

something from you or that he doesn’t want to engage in a specific

activity or task.

Our hands can make several gestures, each with a difference in

meaning. We can express just about anything through them. For

instance if you want to let another person know that  you are

interested in them or in the conversation, your hands can

emphasize that for you.

If you want to let someone know that you aren’t interested your

hands can express that for you too.

Weather we know it or not we all use our eyes, arms, hands legs,

head, and our body posture to communicate with each other. That

is why learning how to read body language is such an important

skill to have. We are all born with a basic instinct when it comes to

body language interpretation, but just like anything else in life we

have to hone that skill.

Because a persons actions definitely have more honesty

compared to the words coming out from his mouth.

Look for your next lesson soon! We will be going over some

quick tips that you can use to further hone your body language

skills along with some ways that you can use your new skill to your

advantage.

Until then practice observing the ways that other people use their

bodies to communicate. Just don’t jump to any conclusions that

will get you in to trouble and remember I cannot be held

responsible for misinterpretations 😉

Since  anyone just about can learn the nuts and bolts or better yet, the A to Z of the of relationship building, focusing on some basic and proven techniques that can be learned is a must. The main ones, in no particular order, are:
– Read: “Read” people well, this is done without listening to any words from the person, just watching him.
– Rapport: Develop rapport with others well, also meaning that you must have a conversation with him.
– Finesse: Have some finesse; i.e. handle conversations and activities in a cordial manner
– Conflict Resolution: Resolve negative issues and conflicts without too much friction
– Support Co-Op: Gain the support and cooperation in working towards a common goal

Let’s take a little closer look at each one and what learning is involved.

READING PEOPLE: BODY LANGUAGE BRIEFING

Body language is the meaning behind the words or the “unspoken” language. Surprisingly, studies show that only up to an estimated 10 percent of our communication is verbal. The majority of the rest of communication is unspoken. This silent language isn’t rocket science. However, there are some generalizations or basic interpretations that can be applied to help with the understanding or translating of these unspoken meanings. Here are some basics below.(again, we will talk later about the Body language of men)

Smile – People like warm smiles. Think of a heartfelt warm-fussy, maybe your favorite pet, and smile.

Eyes – -If you don’t look someone in the eyes while speaking, this can be interpreted as dishonesty or hiding something. Likewise, shifting eye movement or rapid changing of focus/direction can translate similarly. If more than one person is present in a group, look each person in the eye as you speak, slowly turning to face the next person and acknowledge him or her with eye contact as well. Continue on so that each person has felt your warm, trusting glance. Some suggest beginning with one person and moving clockwise around the group so that no one is missed, and so that you are not darting around, seemingly glaring at people.

Attention Span / Attitude – Other people can tell what type attitude you have by your attention span. If you quickly lose focus of the other person and what is being said, and if your attention span wanders, this shows through and makes you seem disinterested, bored, possibly even uncaring.

Attention Direction – If you sit or stand so that you are blocking another in the party, say someone is behind you, this can be interpreted as rude or thoughtless. So be sure to turn so that everyone is included in the conversation or angle of view, or turn gently, at ease and slowly, while talking, so that everyone is incorporated, recognized and involved in the conversation. Again some suggest the clockwise movement when working a group.

Arms Folded / Legs Crossed– This can be seen as defensive or an end to the conversation. So have arms hang freely or hold a glass of water, a business card or note taking instruments while communicating with others. Be open with open arms. Note: If you need to cross legs, cross at your ankles and not your knees. Sitting tightly folded up says that you are closed to communications.

Head Shaking – This is fairly accurate. If people are shaking their heads while you speak, they are in agreement. If they are shaking, “no,” disagreement reigns in their minds.

Space / Distance – On the whole, people like their own personal body space. Give people room and keep out of their space. Entering to close can be intrusive and viewed as aggressive.

Leaning – Sitting or standing, leaning is viewed as interest. In other words, an interested listener leans toward the speaker.

Note others’ body language – While you are with others, note how their bodies read. If a person suddenly folds his arms across his chest and begins shaking his head “no,” you’ve probably lost him. Might try taking a step back and picking up where the conversation began this turn for the negative and regroup. It’s all about strategic planning!

Note that the contents here are not presented from a medical practitioner, and that any and all health care planning should be made under the guidance of your own medical and health practitioners. The content within only presents an overview of Dating and Relationships research for educational purposes and does not replace medical advice from a professional physician.

Body language of men is an instructional guide to help recognize signs whether positive or negative and should there arise a need for a professional advise, than it is a professional personal that you need to seek for.

This site is dedicated to all the ladies in any part of the world that are interested in finally figuring out how this this creature call man functions, that is a BIG (lol) if you ask me…but since you are not asking me, i will tell you.

I am a male, not a bi male or half male or a quarter male, I am a full 100% male, but I want to help you ladies get an advantage of men since we think that we always should have this advantage. I believe you should know something about the language that we normally take for granted but speaks louder than words, so these articles are written just for YOU, so you can wise up and start checking this guys movements to see what they are telling you wile his words say something else. (You can’t wait to start, right?) first read about the secret to learning body language

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